You should just admit that you are ugly.
Confidence is something that has always been important to me. When a person is not confident, they are destined to fail. Any type of obstacle they run into is a mythical barrier that is impossible to pass. One merely has to think about their experiences in life, their interactions with the public, or view the upcoming generation to see that there is something seriously amiss. Confidence is something not freely given, no magical entity can descend from the heavens and grant someone the confidence they need to succeed; and, to think so is a grave mistake. The purpose of this article is to insult, to degrade, but to capture an easily missed aspect of reality.
Life is multifaceted; so don’t be so damn one-dimensional.
In the present day and age, people are so wrapped up in appearances, feelings, over-sensationalized conceptions of self that they fail to see how their personal attributes and choices aren’t up to snuff. Fat, missing portions of their hair, pot-marked skin from acne caused by over eating, smelling like they’ve not showered in weeks, bathing in smelly scents, or failing to adhere to basic grooming standards all leads to this perpetual social decay. One many surmise that if a person outwardly doesn’t appear care about their personal standards, they are confident in themselves. That person can tackle the world with just their personality, but in reality, they are typically terrified of the outside world and how people see them; it’s why they fight their PERCEPTION of the world, and not the people in the world. That person is terrified to admit they don’t have the ability to conform, thus they do the complete opposite, which reveals how unconfident they are. While it’s true there are some who genuinely that style, but the majority don’t. One merely has to speak with some of these people to garnish the idea of how self-loathing, self-hating, and self-hated they hold for themselves. The choice in cloths, style, and appearance is not a depiction of their style; rather, it is an unintentional, honest reflection of their inner turmoil.
Stop fooling yourself.
The best, easiest way for a person to build the confidence they want is to pursue self-actualization. Confidence is a direct product of knowledge and understanding. The more a person knows about a specific topic, the more confident the person is. When a person fails to admit that they are something, the less confident that person will be, as they can’t admit to themselves, let alone anyone else, the truth of who they really are. One can be sure that they will put up a front, but when it comes down to the brass tacks, that person will crumble faster than the French government when German tanks are crossing their trenches. That being said, one must tear down those fronts, admit to themselves who they are, and only then will that person begin to grow. When knowing the self, a person will be able to utilize that knowledge for their own benefit while spreading their weaknesses thin to mitigate negative outcomes.
The only person you hurt by ignoring reality is you.
Embrace the fact that you are not perfect, there are people out there that are much more physically appealing and able to accomplish much more. When considering people who are better off, don’t worry not about the fact that they are in that position, worry about doing what needs to be done to put one’s self into that position. Not all of us are handed everything, for many of us life is hard, it is a struggle from day to day. When faced head on, those times are the times that will give a person the confidence they need to thrive or they will die. That person will lie down and let their own self-pity consume them and I think that’s a positive. We cannot go on letting other’s carry our weight, again, we must learn to fight and strive for the items we want to call our own. There are so many people presently who cry, lie down, and throw temper tantrums when they are not handed things they want as though they deserve them for merely existing. We are here to say if a people want better things in life, the confidence to run their lives, households, relationships, and then they must develop the skillset needed to do so. It’s amazing to be aware of what one is not good at as it gives them the opportunity to identify, isolate, and learn techniques to over come those inadequacies.
You will never get a further in life if your problems own you.
Summarily, reality exists in many different states, but one reality is consistent, and that’s a person’s interaction with the world. People can see themselves in any way they wish, that’s their right. They, however, cannot control other’s reality and perception; we saw how this failed with the election of Donald Trump. No matter how much an alternative reality is forced on a populace, the individual concept of right and wrong will always outweigh that nagging force. So, don’t try to push a false reality on someone as it will just come off as sad, pathetic, and telling off the person’s character. While it may seem so, people aren’t as stupid as one may think, and such a falsity will become rather apparent, quickly. The sad part is, the person attempting to force that lie will know it. They will see their friends, family, and acquaintances and they will know that, despite how hard they try, they will always be mocked, shamed, or laughed at. It will start slowly at first, usually behind their back, but eventually it will be in their face as the horrid truth of their insecurity creeps forth from the recesses of their façade. In the end, they will be left in well of their own inability to act.
You should just admit that you are ugly.
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